Blog Bullying

First, I would like to welcome you to my new home. It’s under unfortunate circumstances that I am blogging from here, but I will get to that in a moment.

Please add http://coffeewithsabrina.com  to all your blogroll or readers!

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Why am I here? That’s the burning question!

Many of us have been bullied in some way at some point in our lives, but I thought blogging would be “safe”.

I first started blogging back in August of 2010, not so long ago. It was a big step I never thought I would take, but I am so thankful that I did. I am honored to have made so many friends that are spread across the county, and the world.

One thing I never knew how to do was to tell people in my real life about my blog. Okay, scratch that, I wasn’t ready to explain my healthiness journey to them. But soon my “real life” family and friends wanted to know about all these “new” people who were suddenly in my life and that I was buying plane tickets to go visit.

Slowly the truth started coming out about my blog, being healthy, and all my new-found friends. Many people laughed at me, others said that none of you couldn’t possibly have real friends that way, and others called me crazy for flying to Minnesota for people I never met. This stung a little, so I just stopped talking about it.

One of my old “friends” from my days at church youth group recently got an iPhone. With the iPhone came a Twitter app, so he signed up to see what the hype was about which led him to my twitter account. The next thing I knew he was surfing my blog like it was tomorrows headlines!

We have had our issues and differences over the years, but for the most part he can be a good person. However, he does associate with some questionable people, whom I don’t care for at all! He decided it would be “funny” to share by blog with all these less than stellar people.

This is where “blog bullying” comes into play. I was getting bombarded with messages via text and Facebook.

“You will always be a fat kid”

“Those people don’t like you, know one likes you”

“You will always be alone and single. No one loves a fat woman”

Yes, it was bad. My feelings were hurt, I cried and I never wanted to blog again. But I knew that wasn’t the answer. Very quickly Lindsay, Misty, and Kris jumped to my side and I knew that these people had nothing on me. They don’t know what real friendships are.

I have never once gave my blog address out to people in my real life. I have never shared it on Facebook. And none of my friends had Twitter, until recently. These “friends” have been deleted from my Facebook. My Twitter account is on lock down, but you can still send me a follow request (@Sabrina_Alex). And, as you can see, my blog has been relocated.

We live in a sad world that people have to be so cruel to one another. What happened to humanity and human decency? I truly hope no one has to go through any sort of bullying.

My best advice: find a way to clean your life from them, and move on. You are too good for that garbage!! Many cases are different from mine, but find a support system and stand up. Empower yourself and don’t let them keep you down.

With all the empowerment aside, I still have fears. I still shudder at the thought of putting myself out there. I still doubt my abilities to continue to write.

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I don’t like doing this, but I am going to ask you to plug my little new (old) blog for me. If you chose to do it on your own blog, or via Twitter, I would so appreciate the love and support.

I am afraid I lost about 80% of my people in the abrupt move. 😦

Leave your blog address for me, please! So I can re-follow you. Or come visit if you’re new! 😉

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30 thoughts on “Blog Bullying

  1. krisgetshealthy

    Be you, be what you like, be like yourself! You are AMAZING Sabrina!
    I fight battles in my own head every day trying to escape being the fat kid, the fat teenager the fat adult. I want to just be Kris a happy content with myself as I am person, and you know what… I am Kris.

    I had a long talk today with an old friend, who I have been out of touch with (although we are facebook friends) for about 2 years which spawned from a message I sent him thanking him because he did something for me that changed my life. (I will discuss with you in chat if you like, but im not putting it on the blog lol) Anyway, he denies that he did anything and that I am doing it all

    You have very real friends, who very much care for you. Those creeps are just that creeps. Look at all that you are accomplishing! I mean seriously… you are about to FLY to do a 5k! That is INSANE, in an AWESOME way!!!! I mean really! People fly to do the Disney Princess thing right? So what is the difference right?

    Minnesota is a beautiful place! It is a top tourist destination and the people you have gotten to know really are genuine. We share in the good times and raise eachother in the bad!

    Remember my pack mentality post a while back? We are a family! Those people need to tear others down, it is a sad sad little world they live in. We are SO FAR past that it is unimagineable!

    You little lady rock! Count on a HUGE hug from me when I see you!

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  2. sarahf

    I can’t believe people, adults, would do that. Maybe little kids, I could understand, they don’t know any better, but fully grown adults? That’s insane! Friends come into our lives all sorts of ways, and if you’ve found some good friends via your blog, then that’s a wonderful thing. Good luck with your new blog, success is the best revenge!

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  3. Corryn

    I’m so sorry you had to deal with that! I often wonder what kind of pain bullies have in their lives to cause them to lash out at people. I know that’s not easy to do when you’re the one being bullied. Hang in there. You know who your friends are.

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  4. ptg1002

    I am so incredibly sorry to hear that you had to deal with it….I know what it’s like to deal with blog bullying – I had to deal with the same thing myself.

    Know that no matter what, your friends ARE real, and you ARE an amazing, beautiful, smart, and definitely NOT crazy real woman.

    I will continue to follow your journey and root for you!!

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  5. Kimberlynn

    I am so sorry you’ve had to go through this. I completely understand how you feel though. I also made the decision not to tell people about my blog…unless of course I completely trusted them and knew they could relate to my journey. Everyone else…no way!!!

    I support and respect your decision to move, but am so sorry you had to. I can’t imagine how hard that would be after you’ve poured your heart into a blog for so long. Hopefully everyone will follow you here and you can move on. As for me…I’m here to stay.

    (((Hugs)))

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  6. Meredith

    ❤ I just have recently started to get to know you and I have no idea how people could be so cruel. As others have said, I feel sad for bullies, they probably are harboring a lot of pain.

    You on the other hand are awesome, I can't wait to meet you on Memorial Weekend!

    (pnutmn)

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  7. michelle

    Wow! I can’t believe how immature and mean people can be. I’m not sure who in my “real” life reads my blog… I like to think I wouldn’t really care, but then I think back to older entries and wonder if I would feel embarrassed if people I know in “real life” read it.

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  8. AthleteComesBack

    Sad that you had to deal with such ugliness. I am happy that it is over and done with….it’s unfortunate, but the people that did this to you will have to pay for it. There loss, glad you are moving on.

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  9. Lynsey

    You know better than to believe that nonsense. Nobody in my real life reads my blog and I’ve made some amazing friends through my blog. Don’t listen to them.

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  10. Arielle

    People are cruel. I hate that you had to create a new blog but if that’s the only way to do it, then I can’t judge. I’ve never really been bullied other than by siblings so I can’t relate and I can’t really understand how it feels…though I’ve had emotional abuse but for other reasons entirely. *hugs* I’m glad you have your new safe haven now :] Don’t forget to refollow me! http://arielleippolito.blogspot.com

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  11. Sarah

    I almost thought I lost you since I was unable to pull you up. The time difference really screws me sometimes. I can not believe that people are so childish still. It really amazes me how low people will go. We are behind you so do not listen to them.

    On another note when I could not pull you up on blogger I put you title in goggle & I found you. Just wanted to let you know.

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    1. Sabrina Post author

      Glad you found me! But I am annoyed it is searchable when the setting at the top of my WordPress dashboard says “Search engines blocked”

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      1. Melissa

        Hey Sabrina,

        I was following you on blogger and just wanted to let you know that I google searched you and you came up (luckily for me since I didn’t know where you went!). You may want to check your settings again as I know you do not want this to be able to happen.

        Anyways, I am so glad that you are keeping your chin up and leaving those jerks in the dust. You are an inspiration to me and I love reading your blogs.. Keep that smile on your face and keep moving girl! So proud of you! 🙂

        Take care,
        Melissa

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  12. eve @ eveunderground.com

    I can’t believe that people would send you such awful messages. 😦 For most people blogging serves as a way to express themselves, learn about themselves, and ultimately improve themselves. And along the way you may be lucky enough to connect with others going through the same journey. How is that something to ridicule?

    I’m so disappointed when I hear about people being negative and unsupportive towards someone who is on a journey of self improvement. I guess the positive side is that once you’ve identified those negative people you can distance yourself from them…since they’re not really offering you anything of value.

    Anyway, good luck with your new blog home, I found it thru your twitter link. 🙂

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  13. Ann

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. But I hope things are okay, and please know that LOTS of people (myself included) love and support you!!

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  14. elle

    Ahhh, Sabrina. This is horrible. I’m so saddened that these people would send you such horrible things. I don’t understand what makes people think they can just start spouting off anything that pops into their heads.
    We’ve all been there – and we’re all here for you.

    Chin up girl, and hold your head high.
    Love ya,
    Elle

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  15. Jay

    Hey Sabrina, that totally is no good – don’t fret the whack attack. Some people just don’t have their stuff figured out and take it out on others who do.

    One of the differences between wordpress and blogger is that blogger keeps track of the number of people that have subscribed to your RSS feed via their google account, which is what google reader checks to update your followers. You can give people your direct address to add to their google reader, and google reader will parse the xml into a readable format. If you click the orange button for rss feed you can see your raw xml. I don’t know if there is a way to show the number of people subscribed to you (because there are other RSS feed readers), but you can always check the traffic you have coming in from the dashboard to see.

    Keep on rockin out yo.

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    1. Sabrina Post author

      Thanks Jay! The RSS feeds really throw me for a loop. But I am figuring it out one day at a time! I will see you soon!! 😉

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    1. Sabrina Post author

      I know and it’s slightly annoying. But I can’t fix it. For now I will just let it go. I don’t want to keep living in fear. Thanks, friend!

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  16. MB

    I’m so sorry you had to deal with such hurtful comments and were forced to move. You are exactly right, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Be proud of who you are – I am 😉

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  19. Real Fit Mom

    People can be mean. I’ve discovered that the older I get the worse the drama gets which is unfortunate. I’m glad that you are still blogging and have rid yourself of the trash you didn’t need. Keep up the good work!

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