First, I would like to welcome you to my new home. It’s under unfortunate circumstances that I am blogging from here, but I will get to that in a moment.
Please add http://coffeewithsabrina.com to all your blogroll or readers!
Why am I here? That’s the burning question!
Many of us have been bullied in some way at some point in our lives, but I thought blogging would be “safe”.
I first started blogging back in August of 2010, not so long ago. It was a big step I never thought I would take, but I am so thankful that I did. I am honored to have made so many friends that are spread across the county, and the world.
One thing I never knew how to do was to tell people in my real life about my blog. Okay, scratch that, I wasn’t ready to explain my healthiness journey to them. But soon my “real life” family and friends wanted to know about all these “new” people who were suddenly in my life and that I was buying plane tickets to go visit.
Slowly the truth started coming out about my blog, being healthy, and all my new-found friends. Many people laughed at me, others said that none of you couldn’t possibly have real friends that way, and others called me crazy for flying to Minnesota for people I never met. This stung a little, so I just stopped talking about it.
One of my old “friends” from my days at church youth group recently got an iPhone. With the iPhone came a Twitter app, so he signed up to see what the hype was about which led him to my twitter account. The next thing I knew he was surfing my blog like it was tomorrows headlines!
We have had our issues and differences over the years, but for the most part he can be a good person. However, he does associate with some questionable people, whom I don’t care for at all! He decided it would be “funny” to share by blog with all these less than stellar people.
This is where “blog bullying” comes into play. I was getting bombarded with messages via text and Facebook.
“You will always be a fat kid”
“Those people don’t like you, know one likes you”
“You will always be alone and single. No one loves a fat woman”
Yes, it was bad. My feelings were hurt, I cried and I never wanted to blog again. But I knew that wasn’t the answer. Very quickly Lindsay, Misty, and Kris jumped to my side and I knew that these people had nothing on me. They don’t know what real friendships are.
I have never once gave my blog address out to people in my real life. I have never shared it on Facebook. And none of my friends had Twitter, until recently. These “friends” have been deleted from my Facebook. My Twitter account is on lock down, but you can still send me a follow request (@Sabrina_Alex). And, as you can see, my blog has been relocated.
We live in a sad world that people have to be so cruel to one another. What happened to humanity and human decency? I truly hope no one has to go through any sort of bullying.
My best advice: find a way to clean your life from them, and move on. You are too good for that garbage!! Many cases are different from mine, but find a support system and stand up. Empower yourself and don’t let them keep you down.
With all the empowerment aside, I still have fears. I still shudder at the thought of putting myself out there. I still doubt my abilities to continue to write.
I don’t like doing this, but I am going to ask you to plug my little new (old) blog for me. If you chose to do it on your own blog, or via Twitter, I would so appreciate the love and support.
I am afraid I lost about 80% of my people in the abrupt move. 😦
Leave your blog address for me, please! So I can re-follow you. Or come visit if you’re new! 😉